Ashenai wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:08 pm
There's something I've been thinking of, which is that I think we somehow lost the idea of "none of your business". I don't remember when I last heard that phrase! But it's an important phrase!
Let me explain. When I hear about, I don't know, Chris Brown physically abusing Rihanna. That's a bad thing! But... it's also none of my business. If I was the first to learn about it, it would be my business to report it to the police, but that has clearly already been done. So, it's none of my business. I don't know these people.
I think this was a reasonably mainstream opinion before social media. It is a very unpopular opinion now, and if I were to buy a Chris Brown album, people would go like "you're enabling an abuser!" And I would be like, no, I'm buying some music that I like, and I honestly do not care what the singer does when he's not making albums. It's none of my business! It's the business of the police, and the courts, we have an entire system set up to deal with this stuff so it doesn't have to be my business. If he did a crime then he should be arrested and punished for that crime, and this fact does not interact in any way with whether or not I buy his albums. I'm not part of the apparatus set up to punish him for his crimes.
I think this is part of why politics is hard to talk about now. Because everything has to be my business. I have to engage with everything. If I like a music or video game or book, then I guess I better read up on the creator's personal life. In modern discourse, not caring about something that -- objectively -- has nothing to do with me makes me a bad person!
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that's one of the gataris, right? I think I recognize the girl with the wiener octopus hair
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congrats on recognizing (認) heart under blade
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yeah he should have just banned everyone who posted in that thread instead
wow, [you]. that all sounds terrible. i hope it gets better for you
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that unironically would have been a better way to handle it than the way he did.
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i think what he did was fantastic
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i wasn't being ironic
wow, [you]. that all sounds terrible. i hope it gets better for you
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i didnt think you were. that was included to clarify my own stance.
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Quite possibly yes.Skeletor wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 5:14 pmyeah he should have just banned everyone who posted in that thread instead
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I'm being a little hard on him though.
The culture at large turned on us all and he either didn't want to or didn't recognize that he had to deal with that turn. It also doesn't help that his preferences tended to make him more sympathetic to some of our more cancel happy members.
The culture at large turned on us all and he either didn't want to or didn't recognize that he had to deal with that turn. It also doesn't help that his preferences tended to make him more sympathetic to some of our more cancel happy members.
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bas' main problem is that he is a person. people have emotions and natural biases.
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I know I was acting horribly towards the end. It was never something I set out to be, I just felt so incredibly besieged there and I kept getting more and more defensive. And Bas just would never do anything to try and improve the situation.
It was a few weeks after I finally broke off posting there that I started feeling better again.
Fucking shame. I still like most of the people over there.
It was a few weeks after I finally broke off posting there that I started feeling better again.
Fucking shame. I still like most of the people over there.
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the politics thread was a case study on why egos are bad. a very entertaining often times hilarious case study.
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to my mind the politics thread, the culture of goodgamery, and the culture of the internet at large changed, and it all seemed to change around the time trump became a thing.
it felt, to me at least, before like we would all go in there and argue for arguments sake. we would be belligerent, throw punches, laugh, measure dicks, etc. then at the end of the day we would watch the tape together, point at ourselves and each other being stupid, and laugh about it. not literally, of course, but that was the vibe. there were teams of sorts, but it was all intramurals.
there were always people in there who felt the goal was to be the smartest, the most moral, or the most correct. that was fine. you could always play off people like that for fun. sometimes it was fun to be in that space for a little bit anyways, as long as you could laugh at yourself about it later. at a certain point, however, more people in the former category were converting to people in the latter category, and the mindset of the latter category became more entrenched. people confronted with that mindset enough would break and react with that mindset. eventually that mindset became entrenched and the norm. it got personal. it got unfun.
i dont know if it was us getting older. the culture shift. the thread getting too populated, or populated with the wrong type of person. maybe my perception was not the norm, and it was always taken super seriously by the majority. its hard to tell. emotions and intent are very hard to read online. i know i certainly was a "bad faith" actor at times and took things to an unnecessary level or got lost in ambiguities of the space. it ultimately was not sustainable for whatever reason. there is still a golden era of the politics thread, to my mind, that i reflect on fondly.
it felt, to me at least, before like we would all go in there and argue for arguments sake. we would be belligerent, throw punches, laugh, measure dicks, etc. then at the end of the day we would watch the tape together, point at ourselves and each other being stupid, and laugh about it. not literally, of course, but that was the vibe. there were teams of sorts, but it was all intramurals.
there were always people in there who felt the goal was to be the smartest, the most moral, or the most correct. that was fine. you could always play off people like that for fun. sometimes it was fun to be in that space for a little bit anyways, as long as you could laugh at yourself about it later. at a certain point, however, more people in the former category were converting to people in the latter category, and the mindset of the latter category became more entrenched. people confronted with that mindset enough would break and react with that mindset. eventually that mindset became entrenched and the norm. it got personal. it got unfun.
i dont know if it was us getting older. the culture shift. the thread getting too populated, or populated with the wrong type of person. maybe my perception was not the norm, and it was always taken super seriously by the majority. its hard to tell. emotions and intent are very hard to read online. i know i certainly was a "bad faith" actor at times and took things to an unnecessary level or got lost in ambiguities of the space. it ultimately was not sustainable for whatever reason. there is still a golden era of the politics thread, to my mind, that i reflect on fondly.
with love, your good friend, seathesee
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I saw a Facebook exchange recently that I think about a lot. This trans woman I play Magic with posted, "J.K. Rowling is an an awful person and if you consume any J.K. Rowling related media you are a bad person too and you should unfriend me now." Then this other girl we play Magic with (AFAB), a kind of mousey bookish girl, replied, "Aw, but I like Harry Potter. Is fanfiction okay?" She just kind of... surrendered her fandom for a single acquaintance.Ashenai wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:08 pm I think this is part of why politics is hard to talk about now. Because everything has to be my business. I have to engage with everything. If I like a music or video game or book, then I guess I better read up on the creator's personal life. In modern discourse, not caring about something that -- objectively -- has nothing to do with me makes me a bad person!
Now Harry Potter can pound sand so I wasn't personally attacked here, but you know, first they came for the Harry Potter fans.
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Thinking oneself capable of determining who is a horrible person is arrogance of the highest order. We're not mentally, socially, or morally equipped to make those kinds of judgments. We are bad at it. Like, we can pretty reasonably say that Hitler, Pol Pot, and Colonel Green were horrible people, but they went way out of their way to demonstrate that. Most people that get labeled horrible these days get labeled so merely for having opinions the label hangers disagree with. Moreover, often they're opinions that in many instances are still mainstream!pterrus wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 8:13 pmI saw a Facebook exchange recently that I think about a lot. This trans woman I play Magic with posted, "J.K. Rowling is an an awful person and if you consume any J.K. Rowling related media you are a bad person too and you should unfriend me now." Then this other girl we play Magic with (AFAB), a kind of mousey bookish girl, replied, "Aw, but I like Harry Potter. Is fanfiction okay?" She just kind of... surrendered her fandom for a single acquaintance.Ashenai wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:08 pm I think this is part of why politics is hard to talk about now. Because everything has to be my business. I have to engage with everything. If I like a music or video game or book, then I guess I better read up on the creator's personal life. In modern discourse, not caring about something that -- objectively -- has nothing to do with me makes me a bad person!
Now Harry Potter can pound sand so I wasn't personally attacked here, but you know, first they came for the Harry Potter fans.
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many people choose their tastes in literature and media not because of the objective quality of the work but for social acclaim and belonging and so its not surprising they would quickly give up those tastes if the acclaim and belonging were threatened.pterrus wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 8:13 pmI saw a Facebook exchange recently that I think about a lot. This trans woman I play Magic with posted, "J.K. Rowling is an an awful person and if you consume any J.K. Rowling related media you are a bad person too and you should unfriend me now." Then this other girl we play Magic with (AFAB), a kind of mousey bookish girl, replied, "Aw, but I like Harry Potter. Is fanfiction okay?" She just kind of... surrendered her fandom for a single acquaintance.Ashenai wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:08 pm I think this is part of why politics is hard to talk about now. Because everything has to be my business. I have to engage with everything. If I like a music or video game or book, then I guess I better read up on the creator's personal life. In modern discourse, not caring about something that -- objectively -- has nothing to do with me makes me a bad person!
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well i shouldn't say 'objective quality of the work' but they don't make any assessment of the quality of the work as art rather than what other people like
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yeah i think a lot of people enjoy something because they like the experience of being a fan of something alongside other people
wow, [you]. that all sounds terrible. i hope it gets better for you
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let me tell you about my fandomsSkeletor wrote:yeah i think a lot of people enjoy something because they like the experience of being a fan of something alongside other people
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I don't think anyone here is opposed to the idea
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This is a girl that consumes multiple fantasy books a week so I think her sense of relative quality is probably better than most. It is therefore probable that she knew Harry Potter sucks ass on its merits all along, and only continued to profess fandom up until that point for social reasons. Good thinking, Rylinks.
I guess that doesn't explain still wanting to read the fanfiction though.